Every year, the British public are inundated with new stories and studies about how many people are going to be alone on Christmas day; a BBC survey released today found that 7% of Britons expect to spend most of the day on their own.
The fact that people are lonely at this time of year seems almost so self-evident that it hardly needs saying; cold weather and long winter nights can make us feel more isolated. When this is coupled with Christmas being a time for family and friends to join together, how could this not be the loneliest time of year for people who can’t take part in the season’s festivities?
Expectations vs. experience of loneliness
When you ask older people about their expectations of loneliness, the results seem very much to support this idea. A new study by leading loneliness academic, Professor Christina Victor, which monitored the expectations and experiences of loneliness of 29 older people over one year, found that 75% of those taking part in the research said they expected that winter would be the loneliest time for them.
So it’s perhaps rather surprising then to discover that the same piece of research found that participants’ experience of loneliness told a very different story. As part of the study, the older people were asked to rate themselves on a loneliness scale every three months. When the results came in, they actually felt less lonely during the winter months and more lonely during the summer months, particularly during June.
This may be because friends, neighbours and children are more likely to be in touch over the festive period and during the summer months they tend to to be busier or away on holiday. The length of summer days might also play a part – many people try to stay busy to keep loneliness at bay but in June they have a long time to fill. We can also speculate that with so much publicity about loneliness over Christmas, people do tend to make more of an effort to see their older relatives and neighbours. We know that charities, churches and community groups tend to galvanise their efforts to ensure that no-one has to spend Christmas alone.
Preventing loneliness at Christmas
You only need look at the Community Christmas initiative, set up by Royal Voluntary Service, to see all the wonderful activities available over the festive period. The Abbeyfield Society are also running their popular Coping at Christmas campaign again in 2014, offering delicious lunches for older people who would rather spend Christmas with other people and make new connections and acquaintances.
Other organisations, like Crisis and Friends of the Elderly also offer food, company and good cheer in certain parts of England. Indeed, in February this year, we hosted an event bringing together over 40 charities, care services and neighbourhood groups to talk about loneliness at Christmas and to discuss how we can best address it.
Loneliness is for life?
Yet whilst the self-same charities, churches and communities groups almost certainly provide services and activities for older people throughout the year, we know that many are less well funded, staffed and publicised through the rest of the year.
And perhaps, as the media moves on to other stories, and we return back to the routine of our busy lives, older friends and relatives are less in the fore-front of our minds. But as the new research from Brunel University shows, our time and resources need to be spread throughout the year: especially in the summer.
The good news is that most of us do care about addressing the issue of loneliness, across all ages. The BBC survey released today found that two thirds (65%) of British adults think they should do more to help family, friends and neighbours who are lonely.
The festive period will, undoubtedly be particularly hard on many people; the bereaved, those unable to get out, those without close friends or family and those in care homes, but it is vital that we remember that life might be hard for such people the whole year round. The loneliness that older people experience could significantly affect their health and wellbeing. That is why it is so important that local and national health decision-makers recognise loneliness as a serious public health issue, and act to prevent older people from becoming lonely all year round. But also that we all maintain and nurture those connections we foster at this time of the year.
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We are a local befriending scheme matching volunteers to socially isolated older people and bereaved people of any age in our community. I think you make some very valid points in your piece and I would like to share it with our volunteers and supporters. My particular job is to raise awareness of our scheme and the particular needs which give rise to it and I think your article contributes to an on-going and wider understanding of the nature and pervasiveness of loneliness in our society. It’s good to know of all the good work that is going on. As I often say, this is a national, perhaps even global problem which can really only be addressed at a very local, or indeed personal level. The solution, as I see it, is however fairly ‘low-tech’ and uncomplicated and revolves around good1:1 relationships which are at the heart of our service although we have social gatherings throughout the year as well.
Any chance I could share the article on our Facebook page? With acknowledgements of course! Many thanks.
I have dedicated a photo to this campaign
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Merry Christmas
Dave
There is no question that loneliness is a year round issue – the challenge is reaching those that have the year round issue. We believe that Christmas Day can act as a trigger for change that encourages people of all ages to come forward, often for the first time, to engage in their local community. Some will simply be alone on Christmas Day but others will make contacts and engage in conversations that can literally be life changing – what we call the legacy of Christmas Day.
Estimates suggest that 500,000 over 75s spent Christmas Day alone – the total number across the age groups is clearly a lot more – and even if only 10% of these people need companionship all year and find it starting on Christmas Day then that seems like a good contribution to addressing the total challenge. We have a long way to go to delivering that but that is what our vision is all about.
Widowed, have spent the last four years alone. I have a precious old English sheepdog name Simba and he is as lonely as I am. Have down sized due to lack of income. Working a part time job and barely getting by. No family near by and most have passed. I ask myself often how at 67 I am alone and sad.
Had hoped that a part time job would get me out and maybe make some friends, But just making my life sadder and feeling more desperate. It breaks my heart to leave my dog as we have been together for 10 years and suffered the lose of my husband and my mother together. My son and only child was killed in a car accident December 1990 he was 20, My dog Simba has been my rock and now I feel I am letting him down, the part time job is helping. , but not enough. I am lost and just wish to be loved again. To laugh, and feel happy Companionship, company, a friend for Simba and I. Sincerely, Sidney Pitchford
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